Failure is a part of life. You can call it whatever you want -a set back, an emotional let down, a breakup, a loss, but part of the reason why the experience is so incredibly painful is because at some level we feel we failed. In today’s article we will discuss about How To Overcome Failure & Stress
What Does FAIL means ?
Never let yourself down Because FAIL Means First Attempt In Learning.
Always remember ” Failure are finger posts on the road to achievement”.
“Ever tried, Ever Failed. No Matter, Try Again, Fail Again, Fail Better because it’s a road to success”.
If you Failed in doing something, isn’t a mater and it won’t matter BUT the thing matters is that You Tried, you gave your 100%, no matter what’s result.
We can control the things which are in our hands and “Giving A Try” is in our hand But “Result” is not in our hand, so no matter you win or lose, all you need to do is Try, Try Your Best.
How To Overcome Failure & Stress ?
What’s needed is a smart and self kind way to handle such situations instead of letting them lead to vicious self beatings.
Overcoming failure is all about finding it in yourself to start again.
But first of all, you should overcome the failure of sense.
Most of us know that failure is a reality of life, and at some level, we understand that it actually helps us grow.
But still, we hate to fail. We fear it, we dread it, and what it does happen, we hold onto it.
Why is it so hard to let it go, forgive ourselves and move on ? And how we can keep failure — or the fear of it — from derailing us ?
1. Accept What Has Happened
Never hold back your feelings or emotions as it can detrimental to your health leading to mental problems..
And one more reason is Acceptance of the issue removes a lot of problems giving clarity of thoughts for future actions.
2. Don’t Make It Personal
Separate the failure from your identity.
“Just Because you haven’t found a successful way of doing something, doesn’t means you are a failure”.
Because personalizing failure can wreak havoc on our self-esteem and confidence.
There was a man who failed in business at age of 21, was defeated in legislative race at age 22, failed again in business at 24, overcome the death of his fiancee at 26, had a nervous breakdown at 27, lost a congressional race at 34, lost a senatorial race at age 45, failed to become Vice President at age 47, lost a senatorial race at age 49, and was Elected as President of United States at the age of 52. This man was Abraham Lincoln, one of the Greatest President of United States. Because he refused to let his failure define him and fought against significant odds to achieve greatness.
3. Stop Dwelling On It.
Obsessing over you failure will not change the outcome.
In fact, it will only intensify the outcome, trapping you in an emotional doom-loop that disables you from moving on.
So, the faster you take positive step forward, the quicker you can leave these debilitating, monopolizing thoughts behind.
4. Feel Your Emotions
When you feel you have failed, you may be overcome with self-recrimination, disappointment and despair. But don’t hold on it.
Because, holding on your painful feelings can have negative effects on your health, your relationship and future success.
Take time to process your feeling. If you try to fix or move past your disappointment before knowing how you feel, you may act rashly.
Suppressing painful feelings may lead to health problems, such as chronic pain, sleep deficiency, depression, stress etc.
5. Practice Positive Reframing
Positive re-framing is all about finding positive in any situation, even in failure.
Try to understand why your attempts was not successful, and try again. Because failure presents you with a opportunity to learn right.
6. Identify Negative Thought Patterns
With failure often comes the tendency to beat yourself up over it, even calling yourself names.
All you need to do is, to learn to identify some common negative thought patterns so you can diffuse them.
7. Stop Ruminating Over The Failure
Do you find that you can’t stop thinking about what just happened, replaying it over and over in our head ?
This is called rumination, and it will just gonna amplify your negative thoughts.
Don’t let it ruin your thoughts.
8. Address The Cause Of Failure
What happened to throw your goal off back of track ? Could it have been prevented ?
Think about possible solutions you could have put into action, and what their consequences would have been.
Try to discuss your expectations with loved ones and teammates to measure their realism.
9. Set Realistic Goals
Once you have worked through the cause of your past disappointment, work on setting a more realistic goals for the future.
What would you like to see happen next ? What sorts of actions on your art could make success likelier ? Check with people you trust to measure the realism of your new goal.
10. Practice Mental Contrasting
Strike a balance between optimistic thinking and realistic planning by practicing mental contrasting.
First, imagine your desires goal working out beautifully. Let yourself envision a a total success for few minutes. Next, switch gears and imagine all the obstacles that might arise.
Envisioning the obstacles towards achieving reasonable goals can make you feel energized and more capable of tackling with problems.
11. Change Your Approach
Brainstorm ideas and select the one that seems sturdiest. Use mental contrasting to test the solution out in your head.
Ask yourself, if you have the resources to put your new plan into place. What new problems are likely to come up ? How will you solve them ? What needs to be in place before you begin ?
Avoid repeating the same mistakes. Your new approach should not include any of the strategies that may have caused your last approach to fail.
Create a Plan B. Because even well-executed approaches can fail due to unforeseen complications.
12. Try Again
You are learning as you go, and a natural part of this process is to adjust and tweak your approach.
With your new goal set, and your new plan solidified, set out to achieve your goal. Take the time to reflect on your progress as your steps takes effect.
Feel free to change your approach because whether you achieve your goal or have to try again, you will have achieved higher level of resiliency.
13. Motivate Yourself
Try to look at some success stories of people, who had achieved success over a span of time, in spite of having experienced failures.
Always remember all not all born are successful, rather people fight with themselves to overcome their weakness and achieve success.
14. Improve Your Self-Esteem
Never think that you are a loser or useless, No one is useless on this earth.
Everyone here are due to some cause and they are here for some cause. No one is way more intelligent similarly no one is dumb, but we are just different. Don’t try to compare yourself with other’s because you’re YOU , you can’t be him or her.
Always Be You, everyone is best in something and have an unique art that no one does.
A Word From Us :
Sometimes, failure becomes debilitating. If you’re struggling to function after you’ve failed at something, consider seeking professional help.
Whether you’ve experienced a failed marriage or you’ve failed in business, talking to a mental health professional can assist you in bouncing back.
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